I do not support Gay marriages. hopefully I won’t get any negative fall back on my stance. It currently seems popular to be a supporter of Gay rights and gay marriage without so much as thinking about the issue for themselves. gay people are guilty of this as well. Some say, “I want gay marriage to be legal!” if you ask them why, you’ll get a blank stare. So I’ll repeat myself, I do not support gay marriage. It’s not that I’m against gay people or gay rights. It’s your life, do what you want with it.
Religious issue out of the way first. I am a non-denomination christian. You might hear the argument that gay marriage is an abomination in gods eye’s or he looks down upon gay marriages. but we can throw out these augments right away because your particular belief cannot be forced on other people. not in this country. All those statements really comes down to is: ‘I’m not gay, but If i was, then my god would hate me.’ lucky for you, your not gay. right? No my reason’s are not based on religion at all.
My reasoning has nothing to do with depriving gay people of anything. It’s party based on historical tradition, current law, and definition. But mostly it’s the current state of marriage.
Historically, marriage is an institution between a man and a women. Currently, marriage law in America supports that historic custom. the meaning: “A traditional marriage is a committed relationship or monogamous union between a man (husband) and a woman (wife), recognized by civil authority and/or bound by the religious beliefs of the participants. A dual nature, a binding legal contract plus a moral promise, makes marriages” -wikipedia (edited)
It’s the Moral promise that separates a ‘dating couple’ and a ‘married couple’. It’s the promise that matters most.
So why not a gay couple who make that moral promise? Well, marriage has been taken for granted for a long time. the last hundred years or so the essence of what it is to be married has been stretched thin. when a man and a women get married now days, that moral promise they make before a higher power hardly means anything anymore. We marry others we hardly know, We cheat on our spouses, We divorce on a whim. It’s to quick and to easy to get married. With the exception of it being recognised by the state, the only thing a marriage has left is the fact that it is to be between a man and a women. It’s so screwed up, I guess that’s why most people don’t really care if it is opened up to gay couples.
Yet there people like me that still hold on to the belief that Gay’s should not be married. It isn’t about you, It’s about me. I am married. with the current state of marriage in the U.S. being what it is, we are at the breaking point already. I feel that if Gay’s can legally become married and we break one of the two key components of what a marriage should be, then there truly is no hope for the term and the meaning of a marriage.
I think that it would be wrong to change something so fundamental as the definition of the union until the unions can be stronger. Marriage is to fragile already. If only we could fix the current problems with marriage in today’s society, then I wouldn’t be against the possibility of calling a gay couple, ‘a married couple’.
Governmental and religious reform is needed. If It were up to me, People convicted of violent crimes could not be married. People who batter could not be married. People whom have known each other a short time could not be married. married couples with problems should be provided counseling. married couples could not easily be divorced. divorced people would only be allowed to remarry once, with the exception of their spouse passing away. these we’re just off the top of my head but are perfectly reasonable criteria that could fix 90% of what is wrong with marriage today.
But Why do gay couples want to be married with all the evident problems the current system of marriage has? You’ve had support. You have the rights and freedoms the rest of us do. We’ve given what you rightfully deserve as human beings. granted it will still be a long time, if ever, before your not persecuted but you have crossed the line with the marriage issue. You wonder why some people support you up until you ask to be married. Before you wanted equal treatment, now your trying to change something that has stood for an untold amount of time. yet you push harder than ever. Why?
I can only come up with two logical reasons. First, because your still fighting for acceptance. I can understand that. the second reason would be because of the other side of marriage I haven’t talked about yet. Marriage is a duality. It’s other half is that it is recognized by a civil authority.
Government Recognizes married couples and extends to them certain privileges. Tax breaks, inheritance, etc. Naturally gay couples want these same benefits. Is that what it is all about?
I’ve done my best to explain what is wrong with marriage now and why it should remain between a man and a women. hopefully gay people can sympathize with my cause of marriage reform instead of trying to destroy it’s basic foundation.
Perhaps, if you created a union all your own. something that had the same benefits as being married but does not have that title. would the issue would be resolved? can you allow us just the word? Call it a ‘Gay Union’ or whatever you want. make your Moral Promise to each other or to your god, Love one another, be good people. raise a family, have the benefits. show us that you can do it better than we can, maybe we’ll learn a thing or two and fix what us straight people call ‘marriage’Share